The number one thing you need to get women is value. What is value? Value is basically looks, money or status. Any female who was ever attracted to you liked you because she saw some sort of value in you. Lets talk about looks first, you can't change your genetics (except for steroids or surgery) With that said you can dress well in order to raise your looks value, a well dressed man will get women over a man who looks like a bum. Its best to dress with a certain style, a niche group that women can recognize. For example, thug style, rich guy, rockstar style. Pick a style that you like and make sure you look fashionable. The next step to looking better is to lift, either using the Starting Strength program or the 5x5 program. (Google it) Eat big so you can gain weight and get bigger. Also, take creatine because it is the only supplement that is proven to build strength. Don't listen to the "looks don't matter" advice, dress for success and look your best. Don't worry about your looks too much, don't focus on things you can't control. The next thing to improve is money, either get a skill and make money or go to school in order to get a better paying job. (Don't get a bullshit degree and go into debt, make sure to get a legit STEM degree) Don't buy a fancy car to pull women because they will not see the car until they are already down to fuck. All women are attracted to money but you don't need a Lamborghini and a mansion just to fuck hot girls. Status is the next thing you can improve which is your fame level/your reputation. How many people know about you? This means building a social circle and giving positive emotions to the people around you. Game is displaying status and communicating your value to people. If you want to learn game at a high level than read Pimp by Iceberg Slim or Rosebudd: American Pimp. These books teach you principles that apply to getting women. (You have to tone it down alot) My game is based on looks, money and status. Genetically I have good traits, I'm 6' 1 and I lifted to maximize my looks. I wear shirts that fit and have a good style as well. I utilize my money to get into clubs where hot girls go and then I game them by communicating with people and entertaining them. My main goal is to give everyone around me positive emotions. Look better, dress better, get money and build your social circle. START NOW!!!
In the modern world you don't have to cater your personality to the group. There is someone for everyone and everyone for no one. This means that if you create your personality to please everyone than you will not belong to any group. You are simply being a "people pleaser." My personality does not change for anyone, I keep the same personality no matter where I go. People go to jobs every day where they have to act and keep things "politically correct." This relates to women because females HATE when you try to cater your personality to what she likes, it is very weak. Women want leaders, men who have opinions of their own. Don't change your personality just because you want to fuck some bitch. Women hate weakness, they don't want you to change just to please people. You can say whatever the fuck you want to say, you just have to put yourself in a position to do so. No excuses! You are born alone and you die alone, this is your life, if people don't like you then fuck them.
It makes no sense to have needy behavior towards a woman that you have not fucked. If you are at a bar or a club and acting needy in your interaction with females who you nothing about and hasn't done anything for you...that is crazy!!! "The bitch I want is the bitch I don't have, this means that you must always be searching for new women. Always look for a new girl, that is the name of the game, some women will flake on you, in fact women are extremely flaky. Play the numbers game like crazy with women. The reason why men are so needy is because they have no women, they need to be interacting with women to have abundance. The girl you think is so great, these beautiful women, they have nothing to offer other than pussy. They usually create drama in your life and ultimately waste your time. I call women bitches because they have not earned my respect yet. Men today are pussy whipped before they even get the pussy! That is the neediest behavior you can have. Men even buy drinks for women when they know nothing about them. To weed out needy behavior you have to be OK with every woman rejecting you. You have to become mentally tough and get to a point where you don't give a fuck. The key to having this "don't give a fuck" attitude is having a life purpose outside of women. I can replace a woman easily but women can not replace the value that I bring easily. A high value man is always more valuable than a beautiful woman. Become outcome dependent, if a hot girl rejects you then you must be non-reactive and not give a single fuck about it.
Normally in our society women expect men to invest in them first. This puts you in a situation where you are paying for "implied pussy." What this means is that you are paying for pussy that you did not even receive yet! She has to invest in you before you invest in her, this is a strategy that puts the ball in your court. When you get a female attracted to you she needs to be investing in you. You have to flip the script and get her to do things like buy you drinks and invest in you. The women who invest in you will rationalize that you are high value and that you are worth chasing. Women appreciate men who they had to chase and they have disrespect for the men who chase them and beg for pussy. When you see your male friends who are heartbroken over a woman it is usually because they invested in her and she gave nothing back. This also works the other way, women who get heartbroken invest in men who don't give a fuck.
Everyone in the pickup community loves to argue about whether or not looks matter. The short answer is yes, looks DO matter. I equally hate when people take things to the extreme and say looks are everything. This is also false, and there are many things you can do to improve you game. It is very obvious that women are also hardwired to be attracted to men who have money. It does not matter how you look if you can compensate with money. You could be short, ugly, balding with acne and if you pull up to the club with a lambo then women will want to fuck you. You can always use your brain to acquire money in the modern world, you can dress well, buy nicer clothes, watches and other accessories. Once you have your fashion on point you can lift and improve your physique. In this life you have to play the cards your dealt, if you are not the handsome Brad Pitt looking type of man you will have to actively improve your looks, your bank account and your status in life. Women are attracted to men who have higher status, you have to use your intelligence to move up in the world.
This video will show you how to have a champions mindset using Conor McGregor who demonstrates this attitude perfectly. After losing to Nate Diaz Conor posted the most motivational post I have ever seen on Instagram.
Here it is in full:
I stormed in and put it all on the line. I took a shot and missed.
I will never apologize for taking a shot.
I'll take this loss like a man. I will not shy away from it. I will not change who I am. If another champion goes up 2 weights let me know.
If your tired of me talking money, take a nap.
I'll still be here when you wake up with the highest PPV and the gate. Still talking multi 7's.
Thank you to the true support and fuck the hate that came out of the woodwork. I love it all. Its still steak for breakfast.
I've been here many times in my life in some form or another. I'll eat it all and come back stronger.
Aldo you are a pussy. Dos anjos you are a pussy.
When the history books are written, I showed up. You showed up on Twitter.
To the fans! Never ever shy away from challenges. Never run from adversity. Face yourself head on.
Nate I will see you again
Conor McGregor does not give a fuck! He will fight anyone, and if he loses he doesn't make any excuses for the loss, he takes it like a true warrior. This relates to women because you will be rejected, you will take shots and miss. You have to remember that there is no embarrassment in the struggle, the embarrassment is in not trying and not giving it your all. I respect anyone who will put it out on the line, just as Conor McGregor and Nate Diaz both have demonstrated they will do. When I perform magic I am putting myself out there and putting myself on the line. Most men will not take these type of risks, and that is why you must have the champion mindset. The only way you can fail is when you don't put in the work. Wins and losses will come and go, but the effort must always be there.
You must have a clear purpose in your life and you must stick to it no matter what. Every single broke, unmotivated 9-5 worker in America will give you a million reasons why you can't do something. If you want to be like the average person, listen their advice, shit, go ahead and listen to the advice of the bum on the street. If you want to do something extraordinary every ordinary person will tell you that you can't do it and that you shouldn't do it. These types of people have not accomplished anything and they can't attract beautiful women. These average and below average people are not living their dreams and they have no goals and no vision. If you were living your dream right now you would have more women than you could even handle. This is why you MUST have a vision and do everything in your power to make it a reality. Everyone around you will try to convince you that you cannot accomplish your goals. Even your family and your parents want you to take the safe road in life, they don't want you to take risks and go for broke. No one gives a fuck about your dreams, they want you to have a "safe" and "secure" life. The problem is that you must take risks in order to accomplish greatness. You have to free yourself from the opinions of other people. At one point you had a vision for the future that you actually desired, but people around you convinced you otherwise. You have to say fuck that, you have to accomplish what you desire, don't waste your time living someone else's life.
People are always saying that women want what they can't have, which is true. The question is why would a beautiful woman go for a man who ignores her? The reason lies behind the fact that most men are chumps who chase them and will do anything for sex. These average men will take her out, buy her dinner, buy her drinks and chase her to the end of the earth. Just being different from other men will not be enough, you also have to have value. If a bum on the street ignores a hot woman he gets no reaction, but a man who dresses well, speaks well and walks with confidence can ignore a woman and get her chasing him. If you want to get the most beautiful women, and you see her on a consistent basis, do NOT hit on her. You want to ignore her and playfully tease her. Don't be the same as all the other chumps who beg for her pussy and will do anything to hook up with her.
Masculine energy is by nature proactive, which means as men we get shit done! As a man you want to be the cause while the female is the effect or the one who reacts. This is why men are the ones who fuck women while women are the ones who lay on their back and get fucked. When you speak your words should emotionally effect the woman while her words should not be effecting you. As a magician, women will become attracted to me because the crowd is reacting to me. This displays leadership and status, while the people reacting are not seen as high status or leaders. This is why I stress being "non-reactive" to women or even men for that matter. Being a man of action and making things happen is a masculine trait, if you don't make things happen then nothing will. The man has to be the one in the relationship who is taking the lead and striving for his vision and goals. Most men are passive, waiting for shit to happen, when you make things happen you stand out from the masses of men who are simply waiting to die. Most people in general are reacting to life, reacting to their environment, reacting to their boss, they never try to become the cause and effect their environment.
This video is the holy grail of why are either not getting women or why you are losing women. If you walk up to a girl and you feel the NEED for the interaction to go well than you you have the wrong mindset. The correct mindset is to WANT to fuck a girl, not to NEED to fuck her. This same concept can be applied in relationships when men NEED their girlfriend, they constantly text her, constantly worry about where she is and their entire life would crumble if they lost her. I believe in a healthy dose of negative thinking, I like to visualize walking up to a girl and her rejecting me in the most fucked up way. This allows you to accept the worst case scenario and in the unlikely event that she throws a drink in your face and calls you an ugly piece of shit than you will not give a flying fuck.
NEVER let women be your source of happiness, you have to put your life purpose above women. This mean EVERY woman, I don't give a fuck if this woman is your wife.
Find a purpose, make it the source of your happiness and DON'T BE A NEEDY LITTLE BITCH!!!
There is a principle of effort, he who puts in the most effort will fail the most. To get better at anything the key to success is putting in constant effort at the activity and failing as much as you can. The next step is to analyze why you are failing and adjust your mistakes until you no longer make them.
In the process of becoming a magician I failed and embarrassed myself many times but I learned from those situations and improved my skill. This is the same principle I applied to success with women. I approached tons of women inside of nightclubs and failed as fast and as much as possible. I then analyzed my mistakes and focused on aspect of my game I could improve upon. Putting in more effort does not apply to everything in life, weightlifting is one example. Your body needs rest in order to gain muscle so taking time off is necessary. Picking up women is an example of something that effort is truly the difference between getting laid and going home alone. It is obvious through observation that you will get more women if you approach more women, much like sales, you make more sales the more people you pitch your sale to.
Talent is another aspect of game that no one talks about. Your genetic look is the aspect of pickup that is talent oriented while your game is the skill you can actually learn. In the sport of MMA strength, speed and your reach would be examples of talent while the actual techniques would be the skill. Many men who study game are far too worried about the uncontrollable aspects of game, which would mostly be their genetic look. They need to be focused on the things they can control, like how they dress, lifting and gaining muscle, communicating with people, being more charismatic.
Every singe man who has great game focuses on everything from his looks, the way he dresses his oral hygiene, he communicates well with men and women, he lifts, and he approaches every woman he finds attractive. All these aspects of game take effort but if you improve them all you will find success in attracting women.
In this game of getting women your mind has to be absolutely unbreakable. You cant be effected by how women will react to you. Some of theses women are complete bitches, they will literally talk shit to you on purpose to get you angry. The key is to remain calm, relax and be able to take situations lightly. Don't allow words to effect you, your words should be making her react. Whenever a one of these women talks to me in a disrespectful manner I simply say "Have a good night." and I leave. Why the fuck would you waste your time on a bitch who doesn't even deserve or want your attention?
In this video I explain how society teaches you to put women above yourself. In this way you are literally disrespecting yourself and putting women on a pedestal.
ALWAYS put yourself FIRST!!!
NEVER stray from your life purpose and constantly raise YOUR VALUE!!!
Women will start chasing...fuck that...SPRINTING after you raise your your own value to a high level.
Women WANT a man who has BALLS! Someone who will take charge, they don't even want to be put on a pedestal.
I shot this video when I was starting to feel sick and soon afterward I had one of the worst colds of my life. Anyway, the point is I STILL get shit done no matter how I feel. If I were to only take action when I "feel" like it I would probably never get any work done.
The baseball field reminded me that you have to step up to the fucking plate in order to hit a home run. At first you may not be able to even hit the ball, but eventually you will connect. Although your first connections will barely make it past 1st base, one day you will smash that motherfucker out of the park. I compared this to jiu jitsu where you must get tapped out in order to improve, then you will recognize mistakes you are making and adjust your strategy. You either win or you learn.
Whenever I observe men in the club I see that they are simply spectators. They are pussies who fear rejection because of what either their friends will think, or what the girl will think. If your friends make fun of you because you got rejected then you need new friends. I applaud anyone who has the balls to put their reputation on the line and fail. Babe Ruth himself struck out a shit load of times, but no one gives a fuck, they only remember the home runs. One of the keys to success is to be able to handle rejection and failure and continue to improve. STOP fearing failure and rejection, STOP being a fucking spectator. Get in the game, keep swinging, and crack that fucking ball out of the park.